The holidays were different this year for a number of reasons. Three of our four children were able to visit this year – more than usual. And, they brought their spouses and a fiancé. We had overlapping kids coming and going. In addition, we were dealing with Larry’s two surgeries on December 22 and unusual end-of-year events in my daytime job. We managed to get a tree up, but we didn’t buy one present. The quilted tree skirt my mother had made over 30 years ago was bare. By necessity, we focused on family.
What was fun for me was seeing my past knitting projects come and go…hats, scarves, mittens. However, I was also reminded who in the family had not received my knitting or crocheting gifts. Among those are our son, Todd, a story for another time, and our daughter-in-law, Amelia.
I have learned that my preferences and those of my kids diverged a long time ago. I particularly remember the birthday where Todd, in grade school at the time, didn’t appreciate the hummingbird feeder, pajamas and fanny pack (a hot new item at the time) he received as gifts. Now, as an adult, Todd enjoys talking with me about birds and bird-watching, and I bet that he wishes he had that feeder today. We do laugh a lot about that particular birthday.

The Slouch Hat on Model Morgan Espelien
Undaunted, I have gone out on a limb in the past and knitted vests, sweaters and such only to find out that the recipient did not appreciate the finished project, let alone all the time and effort I put into it. These experiences make me reluctant to start a project for a family member that I’m not sure he or she will like. It isn’t that I do not want to do it . . . . the issue is I do not want to make family members uncomfortable with gifts they find unappealing. On the other hand, it is uncomfortable to have family members wearing my projects and others not. Does this mean they think I do not care and I do not think they are a part of our family? How do I approach this sticky issue?
Todd just flat-out takes me on and tells me he is disappointed. It’s an entrée to look through books and patterns to decide on a specific project. I did not have that opportunity with Amelia – the topic never came up. However, I was given the green light after Jeff and Amelia left for the airport to return home. Their driver, Nicole, came back from the run to the airport wearing her slouch hat that I knitted for her last Christmas. She told me Amelia had admired her hat and asked where she had gotten it. Nicole let her know: “Barb knitted it.” This gave me the entrée to connect with Amelia.
Each year I work on
a project with the holiday visiting females, reacquainting them to knitting after a hiatus. One year it was Elizabeth’s Flap Hat; another year, scarves. Last year, it was the slouch hat, a pattern that I created from a compilation of various ideas in the shop. We give the pattern away with purchase of yarn. It’s a fun, quick knit and popular. Shortly after my conversation with Nicole, I brought home some Lamb’s Pride and knitted Amelia’s hat.
The only remaining major preference question was to pom-pom or not? I decided to pom-pom using my favorite technique with the Clover pom-pom maker (See a Clover Needleworks, Inc. YouTube demonstration video at http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rGd0PUWY6m0&NR=1). After all, Amelia can clip it off, if she isn’t a pom-pom fan.:-) To learn more about pom-pom making without the Clover pom-pom maker visit: http://techknitting.blogspot.com/2008/05/how-to-make-pom-poms.html